Kindly

We internalize the unhelpful voices because at certain key moments in the past they sounded compelling.  The authority figures repeated their messages over and over until they got lodged in our own way of thinking.  Part of becoming a good teacher means altering how we speak to ourselves - and then, in turn, others.  To do this we need to encounter equally convincing and confident, but also helpful and constructive, varieties of voices over long periods - and take care to internalize them:  the voices of a friend, a therapist, an author or kindly teacher. 

School of Life, Calm